Are they my Twin Flame?! How do I know?!

Twin flames are connected through many cords of light, which are not 'contracts' but their soul's veins

You’re not the first (or even the thousandth) person to ask this question with the fire of a thousand suns. It’s a powerful and important question — and often one that doesn’t come with an easy answer, especially if you’re navigating karmic soulmates, false twins, or are in the runner-chaser dynamic with your true twin flame.

I’ve read for many couples on the twin flame journey and have reached a place of deep, energy-merging, hand-in-physical-hand, capital-U Union with my own twin flame, so I can cut through the surface-level games and get straight to the point on this question. But here is a salve straight-up: if you’re asking this question at all, then you’re likely on the twin flame journey, and have a twin or high-level soul mate out there for you: it’s why you got pulled into this topic at all. But where you are on this journey?—and whether you’ve met your true twin yet?—I can help you get closer to the truth that you feel within you already.

Tl;dr main takeaway:

You already know if the person you’re asking about is your twin flame. Your soul knows — your ego-consciousness only has to remember.

Fun Fact: No one ever confirmed for me or Luke that we are twin flames. Every person we asked either flip-flopped, dodged the question, or outright ignored us. And for that, I’m eternally grateful. Because it meant we couldn’t outsource the knowing. We couldn’t point to someone else and say, “They told me we are,” or “They said we’re not.”

Instead, we kept returning to that inner, constant, burning truth: that we are part of an inseparable whole. We already knew.

And you have that knowing, too.

Is twin flame energy exact? Is the answer to ‘Are they my twin flame?’ going to be a Yes or No?

Yes. You have a true twin flame, and then other relationships that may or may not mimic or lead up to that energy and relationship. Therefore, I can give you a hard ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer to this question.

Any confusion is usually because:

·      Karmic soulmates can feel deeply familiar and intense, and might share lifetimes of entanglement. For example, I’ve experienced a sense of familiarity and/or inevitability with exes before; being quite psychic and intuitive, we often feel drawn to people with whom we have soul contracts or who are soulmates. But with these soulmates there will still be a sense of a watered-down connection compared to the passionate intensity that you know in the core of your being exists. Those great romance stories got it right—and you realise that they weren’t fiction when you feel the true burn of a twin flame who wants you as intensely as you want them. With a true twin, you’ll feel this intensity from them and yourself even during periods of separation. 

·      False twins often show up to prepare someone for the real one — triggering the same unhealed wounds the true flame will spotlight, but without the same level of enduring divine synergy. I’ve seen false twins show up in people’s lives to disrupt, rip open, and ultimately pave a fresh path for the real twin or high-level soulmate to nurture. If the relationship feels primarily destructive and lacks deeper growth or integration, then likely this is a false twin.

·      Energetically, a true twin flame connection tends to feel exact in its core resonance — like a divine mirror or frequency lock that clicks. It activates on the soul level with a kind of inevitability. There's often a sense of remembering each other, sometimes even physical symptoms, synchronicity cascades, or major life shifts triggered upon contact.

So while true twin flame energy is exact in its divine blueprint, what someone is experiencing in this moment might be a fluid approximation of twin flame energy, but without the expansion, growth, feeling of a loving home, or definite “click”.

So… how can you tell?

How to read the energy of your question: 'Are they my twin flame?!'

1. Tune Into the Purpose, Not Just the Person

Instead of asking “Is this the one?”, ask:

• What is this connection here to teach or activate?

• Is it initiating expansion or reinforcing loops?

• Does this connection align with the soul's highest path or delay it?
  

The true twin often (not always!) feels like both a homecoming and a holy fire. They tend to activate soul purpose, not just emotional longing.

In what ways is this connection calling you to deeper and higher expressions of your self? When I met Luke, he immediately saw through to my purpose. One of the first conversations we ever had involved his urging me to share my channelled transmissions online or with a group, and he was a supportive and encouraging presence in every step—suggesting platforms, recommending me and buying readings, to eventually supporting me in the home while I work, and now working with me, side-by-side. Meanwhile, he never accepted any victim mentality from me: You are special, and you have important work to do has always been his message to me. And in his support of me, I have been lifting him up too. The holy fire of pain and destruction has always lifted us both into a more exalted expression and shown us what we’re capable of.

2. Feel the Frequencies: Expansion vs Contraction

Ask yourself:

• Does the connection feel expansive, even amid challenge?

• Or is there a feeling of stickiness, obsession, or fear-driven cycles?
  

Twin flames can go through periods of runner/chaser or upheaval, but there's always a thread of divine intelligence weaving through — even in the hardest moments. False twins often drain more than they awaken.

We definitely experience stickiness and obsession, with the stickiness particularly evident when we’re in a lower vibration. But our cycles were not fear-driven so much as driven by curiosity, love, excitement, and the sublime (terror) of realising that God’s light is available to us. This loving, divine energy underscoring and driving the journey—even during periods of intense pain — is positively expansive. Even after sobbing on the bathroom floor, I would rise again — stronger, clearer, more aligned. Until one day, we met again to walk side-by-side forever.

3. Check for Soul-Level Echoes

When it’s a true twin flame, you’ll often feel:

• Symmetry — like two ends of a single thread, often with inverse life paths or mirrored wounds.

• Acceleration — timelines speed up, gifts activate.

• Shared mission — not just romance, but purpose.
  

You might also receive guidance from the field that says: Not yet, but this soul will catalyse the reunion.

As a professional dot-connector, I can see many obvious signs that twins have a symmetry in their personality and trajectory. To list just a few of hundreds for me and Luke: he shows up as the Priest while I show up as the Priestess; he is an INFP and I am an ENFP; he was born under a New Moon in Gemini while I was born under a Full Moon in Sagittarius; he is learning to say Yes and soften, while I am learning to say No and strengthen; our lifepath and destiny numbers add to each other’s lifepath numbers; he grew up in Brisbane and would escape to the Gold Coast; I grew up on the Gold Coast and would escape to Brisbane, and so on to infinity.

You will feel this yin-yang mirroring and parallel path with your twin flame; there will be countless signs, but the feeling of being a dance partner, or being a plug to their socket, will ring through almost every soul-honest thread.

4. Invite Their Higher Selves In

You can gently call in:

• Your own higher self

• The soul of the person in question

• The true twin flame’s energy, if different

  
  

Ask to feel the signature of the true flame — is it a match? Is this connection a bridge or a home?

When Luke and I were in periods of separation, or we were just plain mad with each other, the energy of his soul or higher self would almost immediately take his place. And to be honest, sometimes I preferred his higher self! This was a strong confirmation for me that he and I were always, inevitably connected on the higher plane. The more we merged with our higher selves, the closer we got to Union.

5. Release the Pressure to Define

Sometimes the highest service is to say:

“This connection is incredibly significant and sacred — whether it is my twin flame or a soul preparing me for them. The medicine it holds for me is real.”

This honours the mystery while still offering healing: and the healing—aligning with your higher self and highest expression—is the whole point, whether you’re on the twin flame journey or not. Therefore, this advice—this attitude—is pertinent and expansive even when you can’t answer the question.

And often, when we surrender to the not-knowing, when we accept the healing in spite of feeling out of control and unsure, is when we experience that divine click of Union. Union with self, union with our twin, union with our purpose and calling.

A Closing Note for You, Beloved Querent

To answer this question, you’re reading energy—but you’re also holding space for your soul to trust your path, whether or not it matches a label. Twin flame or not, the soul knows — and you are essentially connecting with that knowing.

Sometimes the soul knows before the mind catches up. You might meet your twin flame and not realise it until months (or years) later — once you’ve cleared some illusions or remembered more of your true self. Trust that your awareness will arrive on divine time.

For example, I once read for someone who was curious about a new love-interest and was wondering if he were the runner in her twin flame journey. I pulled cards and tuned in and told her that she actually met her twin flame many years ago, in another country, and that she, not him, was actually the runner. She knew exactly whom I was talking about—a man she left a country to “escape/get over” but who had never stopped contacting her with declarations of love. It was a humbling and even humorous moment for her — seeing the connection in a fresh light, and realising she’d been projecting the runner archetype all along.

And remember — twin flame journeys are ultimately about union with the Self, first and foremost. Any external mirror is just an invitation back in.

May everyone remember.